Erin and I are spending this last night in the hospital enjoying a delicious fish taco or two from Rubio's (it's our fourth anniversay, after all, and fish tacos are Erin's favorite!)... we have been able to visit the twins a few times today and will probably go down one more time tonight. It's been a wonderful day to spend with them.
It occurred to me that many people probably have questions about our current state, so here's my best attempt to answer the most common ones:
Do the twins look alike? Do they have distinctive features?They don't look a lot alike, their faces do look different (Emery's face is a little more long & narrow, Collin's nose is a little more "button nose-ish"). Collin has hair similar to Miles, but a bit darker, Emery is more bald. She looks a bit more feminine/petite (Erin insists Emery's mouth looks a LOT more feminine than Collin's) and is just a bit smaller in general.
Can you see their personalities? Do they "behave" differently?They both cry a little bit - Emery moreso than Collin. Collin wiggles around a little bit more, Emery seems more content to lay in her little "nest" either on her side or on her back. They both wriggle around a little bit, with normal "newborn" type motions...
Can you touch or hold them?They allow Erin and I to scrub up, and reach in to calm them, or help do little things like change diapers or take their temperature. If they start to fuss, we can reach in and place on hand on the top of their head, and one hand under their bottom to provide "containment" that helps them feel comfortable and secure. They like to hold their hands up close to their faces, so helping them keep their hands/arms clutched close to them is a good thing. Interestingly, they don't like to have arms/legs stroked, or feet tickled or anything - it's overstimulation; they just like a soft hand resting on them to help them feel "contained". They say that in a couple weeks, visitors who come to see them might be able to reach in and do the same.
How long will they be in the NICU (Newborn ICU)?They say we should plan on having them here until their due date - which would be September 25th. BUT, if the babies are doing well, they may be sent home early (often times twins don't come home together, rarely is their progress exactly the same)... it depends on three things: 1) if they are continually putting on weight, 2) if they can keep their own body temperature outside the incubator, and 3) if they take all their feeding/nourishment orally, as opposed to through a feeding tube of any sort.
Do they open their eyes? Or are they just asleep the whole time?For the most part, they are just asleep, even if moving their arms/legs a little bit. They'll rarely crack their eyes open to peek around, but obviously can't focus on any person or object. I think Emery has turned and opened her eyes a couple times in response to our voices, Collin just has some seemily random moments of cracking his eyes open every once in a while.
What's it like in the NICU? Are the nurses & doctors helpful, accomodating, etc?It's a fascinating place. Very intense, lots of machines, computers, etc. around with nurses tending to them and checking them frequently. It's a little intimidating at first, but the medical staff has been VERY warm and welcoming each time we come to see the twins. They always answer questions, explain what is going on, teach us about what they are looking for and hoping to see, and encouraging us to participate as much as we feel comfortable. If we are sitting close to one of the babies and sort of getting in their way as they approach to do something, we say "oh, sorry let me get out of the way," to which the common response has been, "no no, they are YOUR babies, you are not in our way". What a wonderful sentiment. We are grateful to have such fantastic nurses to help us through this long journey ahead.
Things are good. Not much new to report - the babies are good. We are grateful for that.
Is there something you'd like to know? Feel free to ask! We are happy to share whatever people may be curious to know...